I love change. I go after new things like a magpie chasing shiny stuff, just for fun. Somehow a while back I got myself confused. I thought when something new is started, it needs to be finished. A nice monk named Dandapani first made me pay attention to finishing one step at a time. Like wake up in the morning, get out of bed and make your bed. To signal the completion of the sleeping process. It is very nice to hop into a made and creasefree bed at night so I do take the time to make my bed in the morning, as good as I can in a minute. For me it’s the thinking ahead to the finishing that sometimes gets me into trouble when starting. It can seem so overwhelming. But then, I go to bed to sleep and wake up and the sleeping started and finished all on its own.
Starting something new is about not doing the same things every day (and expecting a different result would make it insanity someone once said).
Start and finish mindsets work really well on little steps and projects. And the big goals can be broken down into little ones. But beware when the desired outcome, eg finishing, puts one on a path of demanding certainty, which is a slippery slope towards frustration when things don’t go to plan. And they won’t. Life is full of curveballs. Not too rigidly looking at the grand finale or finish line lets us catch the balls because we’re more nimble on the playing field. Remember the squiggly line on the success graph, not a straight line!
What would it be like to start something new, like eating more vegetables, starting with breakfast? To move more, go outside more, think different thoughts? Would it come to a finish after a week/month/year? If you would see results like feeling better, having more energy, more focus, more self-esteem, then you wouldn’t want to finish that thing that you started. What was left behind would be finished. You would be finished with the bad habits, the unkind ways towards self and others, the frustration. Maybe it’s actually back to front, we need to finish something first to make room for the new.
Sometimes it can be hard to start something new (or to finish something) because we don’t think we get support from the people around us, they might think we’re bat… crazy to eat vegetables for breakfast. I would love to hear your ideas about something you’re worried about sharing or starting. Comment below or email me here.